Author Archives: Srividya Ram

Three questions


It definitely was an important day for me to remember – it became the MOST important day – the three unexpected questions in the unexpected situation from an unexpected person made it a superlative day! I will continue to wonder on why I became so lucky today to be aware of these questions and answers.

It sounds very cryptic, but what I experienced today was indeed cryptic at that time. It took time for me to appreciate that it was a unique happening and one of those significant times which I need to remember my entire life.

Barring all the details, here are the three questions and the answers – these made me feel connected with the universal soul which is always prevalent and waiting for me to acknowledge its presence.

Question 1: Do you know that everyone who is born in this world has to die one day?
Answer 1: Yes

Question 2: Do you think someone who suffers a lot due to a physical ailment or with a terminal illness will feel free and happy that they are dying?
Answer 2: They might be relieved of the physical pain and may be happy that they are getting free of it. They still would have enjoyed even that time of physical ailment as they could spend those extra time basking in the attention of their loved ones, being aware of the affection they shower on them.

Question 3: Do you think only the physical body goes away and the soul is still looking out for their loved ones?
Answer 3: Yes, the death is only physical – the soul stays and looks out – that is when you connect with the universe

Feel blessed!

Women forums in IT industry – hype or real?


I have had very interesting conversations with many on the need to start a Women’s Forum  in  IT corporates –  It ranged from “This is a long felt need”  to   “why only Women’s initiative – why not Men’s initiative? call it gender equality!!!….”

Over the years in IT industry, I hardly saw any situation where women can operate differently because they are women. When we assess someone’s capabilities to fit into IT industry, we look for standard traits –  Zero-defect project deliveries, vast domain knowledge, excellent communication and team management skills, client-facing capabilities ……..  all these are gender-inclusive expectations in our industry.

Research has also proven that women have a higher EQ (Emotional Quotient), which in today’s corporate world is rated higher than IQ – this actually gives women an edge over men in problem solving.  The recent trend analysis also concludes that corporates which have women as part of senior management have done much better than those who do not.

Ideally, with the above two facts, the women workforce in IT industry should be at a minimum of 50%.  In reality, statistics show that women workforce ranges between 25% to 30% and less than 15% of senior management in most global IT companies.

The reason for lesser percentage of women is mostly attributed to women’s extended role in family and childcare – this is true globally. Surveys have concluded that in households where men and women work, women still do twice as much housework and thrice as much childcare.

How do we enable women workforce to sustain their career aspirations while they manage their housework and childcare responsibilities   –   this is the major trigger for many IT corporates to start  corporate programs supporting women –  Ideally, from my perspective, these forums/programs need to

  • enable women workforce with additional skills required to multitask
  • leverage women’s potential for furthering organization goals
  • retain women talent
  • establish the IT corporate as “employer of choice” by women workforce

So, what can women do to with the support from these forums??

  • KNOW YOURSELF – “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” – James Allen.   With understanding themselves, comes the wisdom – with wisdom comes the personal power.
  • DEVELOP SKILLS – Ensure they develop skills which continue to give them the financial independence.  This is very critical – with financial independence comes a lot of responsibility and with responsibility, they grow as an individual
  • BE AWARE AND EMBRACE CHANGE –   Continuously challenge their limits – every archiver (Gender inclusive!) has done this!

We need a whole lot of committed change agents  who can make this change……and be part of the change!!   Till then, the debate on the need for  women’s forum will continue…and probably the cheeky lot will continue to check about the need for men’s forum!!

Adam


Category –  Drama-Romance ;  Rating –  3.5  ;  Comment  – Taking care of those who need that care is an esoteric experience in itself!

A lazy Sunday evening and aimless channel surfing –    I ended up watching “Adam” for an hour and half…a heartening realistic romance drama. It was a realistic ending with big emphasis on pragmatism!

The theme is an underlying romance between the budding writer and an Aspergers ,   For those, who is new to the term Aspergers,can read it out here…The movie tries to define love –  love is to whom you  may feel connected and about what.

Nevertheless, the challenge is always in the difference it makes when you know you are being loved Vs being in love.  No doubt that being in love is a great feeling, but I read somewhere that the most powerful force in a woman’s life is the need to be appreciated, loved and cherished for what she is… –  that kind of laid the foundation on why Beth feels that way…

What caught my attention in the movie is the challenges the caretakers of Aspergers  go through –  while it gives a great satisfaction to manage someone who has aberrations at psychological level (there are so many undefined mental states outside Aspergers, some even undetected!)  it is so tough on an individual  –  there are millions and millions of those individuals around this world who go through those emotions and pursue towards the greater goal of taking care of their loved ones…and many-a-times without any recognition.  This movie is a dedication to those lovely souls of mankind who care for others…God bless!

ps-if you are an Indian movie watcher  –  “My name is Khan” in Hindi  and ” Swati Mutyam” in Telugu (Sippikul Muthu” in Tamil) have similar story lines!

Life


Everything is oxymoron, from every perspective

‘Absolutely unsure’ and in a ‘calm storm’

A ‘real dream’ which is ‘attractively distractive’

And a ‘true illusion’ which is ‘out of norm’

 

Still, is an interesting journey to a ‘definite mystery’ destination,

‘Focussing to defocus’ on the ‘perfect imperfection’

‘Consistently changing’ to ‘connect the disconnect’ with the cosmic soul

‘Experiencing inexperience’ and living the ‘illogical logic’ which is in ‘chaotic control’!

 

11 minutes


So, why did i pick this book up ?  I want to believe that it is another incident where the soul of the universe always shows the path … when you seek answers, you realize that the answer seeks the seeker!

 I have been thinking about what is right & wrong relationship and what works & fails in human relationships  – result of  few counselling assignment at work  –  I  end up listening to the younger generation’s complex personal relationships when it overlaps with professional environments – complex relationships with the first circle of family, relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbours –  how relationships change over time and why relationship is all about how you feel about the other person  –  why everything is fair in love and war – and why there are no rights or wrongs – and why the most important thing is related to heart and not to anything physical – and why  the society needs a framework in which physical relationships had to be given more importance over everything else!

At the outset, from my perspective, it can be a bit of a sticky book to refer in a conservative society (it can be even offensive to some!) –  this book uses”not-so-conservative” but realistic characters/ situations to explain  relationships.  If you appreciate Paulo Coelho’s spiritual perspective, you will find those all over this book  –   you will believe that there is this universal soul which each one of us are part of and the answer seeks the seeker.   The story revolves around the life of a young women who seeks answers –  this book will resonate with those who have the ability to appreciate the human nature and the universal fact that both right and wrong co-exists, both evil and good co-exists and the final realization that there is nothing called right or wrong and nothing belongs to us.

Few of the quotes which i want to remember…

About love

  • She also noted that she associated love with the person’s absence than with their presenceIMG-20130326-00407
  • Freedom only exists when love is present
  • The person who gives him or herself wholly, the person who feels freest, is the person who loves most wholeheartedly
  • The great aim of every human being is to understand the meaning of total love. Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need another person
  • She knows this love was impossible, and yet expecting nothing, she could nevertheless have everything she hoped for from that particular stage of life

About life

  • Does the world want me to take “no” risks, to go back where I came from because I did not have the courage to say YES to life?
  • Sometimes you no second chance and that it is best to accept the gifts the world offers you
  • Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realise that nothing really belongs to them – And if nothing belongs to me there is no point wasting my time looking after things that are not mine; it is best to live as if today were the first (or last) day of my life
  • Dreaming is very pleasant as long as you are not forced your dreams into practice.That way, we avoid all risks, frustations and difficulties and when we are old we can always blame other people – preferably our parents, spouses, children – for our failure to realize our dreams
  • The true experience of freedom – having the most important thing in the world without owning it
  • Time exists in two dimensions – it can be so quick or so slow – depending on one’s state of mind
  • I will at last have gained one happy day in my life, considering the way world is, one happy day is almost a miracle
  • The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings with
  • Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. No one wants their life to be thrown into chaos. That is why a lot of people keep that threat of passion under control (Keeping passion at bay or surrendering blindly to it – which of the two attitudes is least destructive?)
  •  Desire is not what you see, but what you imagine
  • Could I buy back a few hours of my life? We keep putting up with horrible people,waiting for that right moment to arrive, postponing the realization of dreams
  • When I had nothing to lose, I had everything. When I stopped being whom I am, I found myself. When I experienced. humiliation and submission, I am free
  • What thrilled her about the bird was his freedom, the energy of his wings in motion, not his physical body

About men and women

  • All girls are looking for one of the three things – adventure, money or husband 
  • I was unfaithful and.so were they, just like any other normal couple
  • Resonates with any woman – there are three inside any women – innocent girl, femme fatale and understanding mother
  • Men always take fright when a woman says “I need you”  (i think it works the other way when it comes to patriarchical society  –  men want women to be dependent??)

Zoo movies – Annai or aalayam (#atozapril 2013 challenge)


The last alphabet Z is for Zoo in Tossing it out -  the last one on the A to Z April 2013 challenge!!   I want to taken a moment and think through on what happened in the month of April and how i chance hit on the atoz challenge  –   while i decided to write about Indian regional movies on the same topic selected by Arlee on his blog, I was unaware of how much of fun and challenge it is to get this done!!  Thanks to the team who initiated this challenge and specifically to Arlee!

While there are many movies around animals and some scenes on zoo, this movie called Annai or aalayam is evergreen in my memory.   This is a 1979 Tamil regional movie which was a family drama with typical mother sentiments around an orphaned elephant.  The little elephant and its naughty actions were a great attraction for me at that time –  i remember pestering my parents to go and watch this movie the second time in the movie hall –  which in those days is a real luxury.  The hero (who is a hunter) ensures that the little elephant is united with its mother at the end of the movie and the entire movie revolves around the little elephant.  One specific song sequence where the little elephant equally dances with the hero/heroine is something very interesting.

 

Youth movies – Azhiyadha Kolangal (#atozapril 2013 challenge)


When i saw Youth movies with Tossing it out’s explanation that these are movies about being young /coming out of age,  I knew Y is still an easy bet for AtoZ challenge.

My first thought is Azhiyadha Kolangal  –  It is a 1979 movie in Tamil regional language and directed by one of those intelligent directors, Balu Mahendra.  It had leading actors in the main roles, though the movie focussed on the life of three teenage boys and their adolescent days –  their first love, witnessing a death, emotional excitements, small village..etc.

I still remember the day i forced myself with my father and his friends to watch this movie.   It was a rainy afternoon, where we had to take up the strong showers, get wet and still made sure that the movie was watched.

 

Xenophobia in Film – Madrasapattinam (#atozapril 2013 challenge)


Letter X was for Xenophobia by Tossing in out for the AtoZ April 2013 challenge

While I was looking for sci-fi film, i went ahead and reconfirmed my understanding of the word Xenophobia in Wiki  – “Xenophobia is an irrational or unreasoned fear of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange. It comes from the Greek words ξένος (xenos), meaning “stranger,” “foreigner,” and φόβος (phobos), meaning “fear.”   With this definition reconfirmed, I can put the entire load of movies with Indian freedom struggle as the theme

Over the course of 17th and 18th century, the East India company from Britain completely colonized India  –  while it brought in various challenges to the Indian community, this also brought in an irrational fear about the British among the population of India.

Madrasa Pattinam is a tamil 2010 period film, which very nicely portrays the feeling of people towards the British.  While the storyline has a romantic theme and the challenges the Indian public faced during the British rule, this movie will stand a long time in depicting the transformation of Madrasapattinam of the 1940s to modern-day Chennai.

Writers in movies – Bharathi (#atozapril 2013 challenge)


As Tossing it out says, there are many movies on writers  –   so, it is more to think on the one which impacted me.  Here is letter W for A to Z April challenge.

Anyone who has read the language of Tamil or been in Tamilnadu will be impressed and influenced by the great works of  Subramania Bharathi  –  he was a writer, poet and a visionary.  He could think years ahead and had strong views on social issues  –  he also played a very influencing role in Indian freedom struggle.

I grew up reading the poems of Bharathi  –   many of my current thought process probably are shaped up by those strong  verses  – be it those  dialogues by Panchali in “Panchali Sabatham”, which completely reflects and depicts the  progressive women OR the cat poem “Vellai nirathil oru poonai” which reinforces the importance of unity in diversity , he was a VISIONARY.   All is poems and their themes are still valid even after so many years.

Bharathi is a 2000 Tamil film which won national award  –  this was based on Bharathiyar’s  life story.  While he came from a patriarchical society and was initially an hypocrite average male at that period, he was open in his mind and understood the big picture and was ready to make amends when he realized his shortcomings.  This makes him a real life hero.  Look at this short scene from the movie –  he changes from an ordinary egoistic male to a matured individual –  after this incident,  he learnt to treat individuals gender-neutrally  and became an advocate of gender equality.

I can only think of Bharathi as the one writer who influenced many lives in the past and will continue to do so in the coming days also.  You can read more about him here  –  http://www.indianetzone.com/9/subrahmanya_bharathi.htm

Venice in Films – Nenu Naa Rakshasi (#atozapril 2013 challenge)


Venice in regional films would have been tough in the past, but in the recent times most of the Indian movies at a minimum have one song sequence shot at a foreign exotic location.  So, there were many movies which had songs shot at Venice, though this movie in Telugu language was shot majorly in Venice.  Nenu Naa Rakshasi is a 2011 Telugu romantic drama.  Having the limitations of understanding Telugu, I still felt compelled to watch this movie till the end to figure out the story line  –  unlike the typical south indian romantic drama, this movie had lots of twists and unexpected turns in the story  (ok, call it illogical turns)  –  i doubt if this movie is something which i will remember but for the location it was shot and the beautiful heroine.

Europe brings in lot of nostalgia in me… It also brings in lot of expectation in me –  one of these days, it is in the bucket list to go around in Europe with no specific plans with like minded folks  –  may be also get paid for that trip and evaluate the places around Europe  –    it is something which will happen when the soul of the universe aligns again to make it happen …!!!

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