Category Archives: Friends
Anitha’s short story got the first prize in Unisun Reliance Timeout writing competition 2011 - I was very happy happy !!……Can’t stop posting this……….check her interesting blogposts here. One more women who multitasks, manages work and family and still keeps her passion for life, and continues to strive for the best keeping her feet firm on the ground!!
Congratulations, Anitha!!! God bless!!
It was my mom who introduced me to the interesting patterns behind numbers………..she used the patterns to remember various stuff…….phone numbers, door number, date of birth, anniversaries…………..she was always on top of these and was a ready reckoner database for the entire family
While i appreciated and understood the technique, i never did pick up that skill till today…..ofcourse, now we have such gadgets which handle everything for us without remembering anything………..but, i always get impressed on the way sometime the numbers weave into our lives…….
……i wonder about ……….
……how the wedding dates of my brother and mine are on consecutive days, though years apart,
……how the birthdates of my kids are exactly 6 months apart from each other though of different years,
……the Fibonacci series and their appearances in the biological settings,
……how in my mom’s family the mother and son are always born under the same star and it came into my family too,
……why always 7 is most commonly occurring number in my life - birthday, door number…….
some kind of a coincidences……the recent is 21st September
Being as lazy as i am, especially when it comes to keeping in touch with friends, i actually have a very limited set of people who can understand my thoughts…….and of those, i just have currently three who are in touch……..and when i discovered that all the three have their birthdates on the same day, 21st September, i indeed was flabbergasted………..
Now , i can never forget 21st September - ofcourse AMwas indeed upset about Bebu sharing her birth date
It was confrontation time!
SJ & YA are confronting MR that his two inputs were contradicting…As always, i am listening and when i felt the situation is becoming sticky…i try this ” hey comeon, he would have made the changes to his plan at the last minute and would have forgotten when u both asked him about it”….
YA gives her typical HR stare at me and says “ you keep quiet…you just believe …..let your belief save you!!”
SJ with his usual aggressiveness continues the confrontation and MR agrees that he lied…..i felt funny….when there is no reason to lie…what makes him lie?
YA turns to me and gives her condescending look and says “see, you just believe…..MJ is too ‘chalu’…he will not share anything with us and we keep sharing everything….LET YOUR BELIEF SAVE YOU!”
I tell her “we all can give what we have only…i am full of beliefs and so i believe !!”……………Without realizing that i am intending that MR is full of lies…these words popped out of my mouth!!..
I felt uncomfortable in making the situation more murky! Though SJ diverted the topic and stuck on to this theory of “you give what you have”….i think i messed up today!
It was a noisy evening with the kids playing football over the corner…we were chit chatting….the kids came running - ‘Hansel broke his teeth when the foot ball hit him…….call his mom’.
RJ quickly pulled her mobile out of her handbag and called JS - JS came with her ever striking coolness and calmness……….she says ‘ Hansel beta, go and wash yourself in the club house..it is just the teeth which was shaking..it should be fine’.
He was indeed fine once he washed up and went back to his game. RJ was enquiring..’so, are you finishing your fasting today?’
JS smiles and says ‘ yeah, eight days are over’. I was surprised and asked - ‘u fast for eight days?’…she smiles and says ‘we can drink lukewarm water as much as we want.’
I wonder…..she has been not eating anything all these eight days – not even milk, but she is so fresh and bright with the calmness and cool…..i was thinking of the one day where i had to fast for 24 hours and how irritable i became…
and look at her……she had been thriving on lukewarm water and stands here with a smile and a very clear thought and a calmness which catches me…..
After i come home, i keep thinking that i should read more about jainism……….i google for it…….and then realize it is just not me, but the scientists are indeed studying the jains fasting to understand the survival techniques…….
but for me, it was the calmness and cool…….not the physical thriving which was unique……..it has to got to do with the mental stature than with the physical status!
We were standing in front of the elevator. The colorful tiny posters on the pathway catches my eye - it reads
I turn to VM and ask “what is this?”……..before he could respond, MR retorts ‘arrey! don’t tell me that you do not know this…it is HAKUNA MATATA”…………Seeing that i am still drawing a blank, the supportive VM says..”this is that lion king, disney movie., you remember?”……….I get further confused and then ask..”oh, so this is Kannada? what does this mean?”……they both look at each other with a desperation on how can someone on earth ask such a dumb question…
to break the desperation, the elevator arrives……… we just hop in … have to keep quiet as there were co-passengers in the elevator……..and then we step into Barbeque Nation….the heavy starters and the spread of food makes us forget any other discussions……….
Back home in the evening…..I am sharing the details on the heavy lunch and then say to the 14 yr old…”you know, i read something like Hakuna Matata and was about to check it with the friends whether it is Kannada, but could not. They said something about lion king”……..
The discerning look comes back on the face and very carefully comes the response…”you asked them whether it is Kannada? oh, god!….it is Swahili (What is this now?) and it means “NO WORRIES”………two of the disney characters use these phrase in Lion King and also there are songs…..”…etc etc
I felt funny…….i was just not ignorant, but alse ensured that my ignorance put VM/MR in a fix on how to handle this…………………for a second i felt uncomfortable and then could not stop smiling……i can imagine what would have gone in the minds of VM and MR(especially, knowing that he is an ardent kannada literature lover) when i asked them “is it kannada?”………..i laughed out and said aloud ”HAKUNA MATATA“!
It is the best stress buster meeting of every day – I am referring to the lunch hour meeting, between the so-called ‘lunch gang’ of assorted people…….men and women in late thirties and early forties….all in senior positions of the organization hierarchy and hence by design do not have many friends within their team (it is always lonely at the top of the pyramid!)
The only common thread initially was that the entire gang works in the same office block, in dissimilar functions,which is a comfort as there are no conflicting interests. Over a period of time, similarities were found within the lunch gang – the first pair who always want to tease each other about who is eating more of the junk food; – and the second pair, who enjoy these teasing and share inputs on the daily affairs of the world. This lunch gang also serves as the office grapevine to some extent……the gang is slowly losing inhibitions and sharing lots of things.
Off late, the comfort factor is pretty good and the two food lovers literally make fun of each other over food. There is always conflict about who gets the biggest share of the ‘goodies’ for the day.There were sweets on that day, from the nearby famous sweet shop. There were no option for any conflicts on the biggest share – there were only four pieces available and it was an equal share….after that came the big red apple and there was the fifth person who joined the gang – oh, now, it was the sharing one apple among five!!!
The two food lovers start on it……’hey, don’t cut big pieces for yourself, this is unfair’…….the argument continued about the person who is cutting the apple is being unfair, etc………the other three were watching….the brawl was going on. Then the quiet ‘down-to-earth’ guy gives a solution – “you cut the apple into equal five pieces and then he will distribute the five pieces to each one of us”….it was a good one and the two foodies have to give up their brawl!!
I could not stop wondering “Oh, wow! What an intelligent way of ensuring that sharing is indeed fair!! When I highlighted that it indeed is a smart way of ensuring that sharing is always fair, the lunch gang mentioned that this concept of sharing dates to ancestral days, when the lands and properties are shared among siblings and cousins. Lots to learn!!