Marriage – Osho
Posted by Srividya Ram
- Author – Osho
- Category – Non fiction
- Rating – Not sure if I can rate it!!! 😦
This book is a collection of Osho’s preaching and excerpt from his other books……….. .all about marriage!!!
Now, let me be honest. I did not completely enjoy reading Osho’s thoughts on marriage At times; his thoughts were too stunning and at times too abstract and theoretical to comprehend. Probably, he had an explanation for my reaction – within his book – “that is because your mind is conditioned about how a women should be and what marriage should be’
There were some parts of the book which made sense and there were some parts where I felt it is all rhetorical !
Osho quotes that human beings are polygamous by nature and the institution of marriage forces them against that and supports monogamy. While men invented arranged marriage to bring a framework, they also understood that men need a vent and hence they invented the system of ‘devadasis’. Now comes the question – IS WOMEN NOT A HUMAN BEING? She indeed is!! So, why was there no system for women?
But men planned in such a way that women were reduced to a thing…Women were denied education, they were made to be dependent on men financially – we made a society where women were dependent on men for financial security and also for knowledge (women were denied education, in general)
It is true that the Indian system of marriage gives stability. So, West invented a different solution to this polygamous nature – they went with serial monogamy, so there were lot of marriages and lot of divorces they fall in love, marry and then they get out of love and divorce
So, marriage puts a constraint and hence it kills love. Osho reinforces that love is important.
While it all made logical sense, I could not stop thinking in the following lines………………
If marriage is not the right institution and if it kills love, what is his idea about giving a secure home to the children, who are the future generation?
Many marriages may lack love.
When two individuals, who were tied together by marriage and not by, love……… wanting to lead a peaceful life with integrity….…..over a period of time will definitely develop “AFFECTION, UNDERSTANDING, ADJUSTMENT – all the good things required for a successful partnership.
Marriage (with the basic affection and a conscious will to be a better parent) indeed gives an environment where there is higher probability of achieving a physically, mentally and emotionally stable life. And ofcourse, this brings in an environment for the children to grow up so that they become stable individuals.
Somehow the way we human beings are designed, we need both parents – mom and dad!
Probably, marriage is an artificial way of enforcing men and women to establish units that form a cultured society. For humanity to survive and reach further heights we need certain basic rules and framework in place and what is a better alternate to the institution of marriage?
If we can come up with a better alternate framework than marriage – which is going to achieve love and affection and also provide a stability in life – who is going to complain??!!!
Today, marriage works and there is no alternate which is better 🙂