Idiosyncrasies of being a woman
Another women’s day just passed by! Lot of attention in media – everyone did their bit! The private sector, the public sector and the individuals – all played their part in promoting the awareness about celebrating womanhood! Nice messages were pouring into my whatsapp, twitter, fb and mails. Everyone seemed to be enthusiastic about sharing their wishes with me – colleagues, friends, family…. and I reciprocated. In addition, I did my bit by joining a walkathon organized at work for the sake of girl child. It was a win-win for me – I could do a long walk and also make sure that I did my bit on women’s day.
And then, this interesting conversation happened during the walkathon. There was this senior person from a well established industry association which aggressively promotes “Diversity and Inclusivity” and in that context women. This gentleman was sharing his views on women leadership and the need to support women during their child bearing years. Typical of someone who is passionate about what they do, this gentleman was describing and analyzing the various initiatives to support women in IT sector.
During the course of this passionate conversation, he highlighted that employers should appreciate the needs of the women during pregnancy period also. He gave an example – if a women has morning sickness, she should be given the option for flexible timing. I was mentally absorbing this fact of including pregnancy period also to provide flexibility to women and wondering what it means to run a project and accommodate these requests – in reality, IT sector struggles a lot to provide meaningful flexi timing even post pregnancy as the work demands overlap timing with US time zones.
And suddenly he adds the spice ” you know, I was told that it is the senior women who are not very supportive to implement these small changes to take care of the women’s needs. They say, “we have gone through the pregnancy period and managed work without any concessions. Why can’t the current generation do this?’ That is where people say that men are different and take care of women better”. My thoughts were stilled and i was taken aback for a minute – alas, once again, i was reassured that women never get it easy!
My experience tells me to subscribe to the concept of “when going gets tough, the tough gets going” . With this new perspective shared by this gentleman, my subscription can easily be construed as a senior women not appreciating the tough situation which a junior women is going through??!!! Am aghast – should i patronize the younger generation to be a considerate senior or continue to goad them to cross over tough situations by being tough?? So, patronizing women is what they call as taking care of women??!!! where will they get this right?!
These…. Idiosyncrasies of being a woman!!