On a dull Saturday afternoon, I compulsively was checking twitter, though ended up checking my inbox (established symptoms of OCD, I suppose!) – and then I saw this note from Shiva “Is this referring to you? – http://www.youthconnectmag.com/2014/09/27/13-rare-personal-stories-about-rahul-dravid-will-make-your-day-today/” – It indeed took me just a second to realize what this was about….and it was a squeaky feeling to read about yourself as “one Mrs.Srividya Ram!”
Nevertheless, I was thrilled that someone actually read it and referred it!! Later i realized, that because of this reference, the blog had booming statistics for a day! So, I am now wondering if i should thank the youthconnectmag or the simple humble real life hero for inspiring me to write this note ?
I am in general lost when everyone keeps discussing about new year resolutions – Being brought up at a small town in a traditional orthodox family, new year for us was another day in which we woke up early as it falls on the Margazhi month of Tamil calender, make sure the Kolam (rangoli) on the outside of the house is grander than usual, visit the temple and wait for that traditional sweet dish of payasam(Kheer) or Sakkarai pongal to be served for breakfast or lunch at home. Then we just continue with our life..we do what we have been doing the previous day!
So, when I hear “new year resolutions”, “reflections of the year that passed by”,”partying on the new year eve”,etc – I just end up in a catch up mode…thinking hard on how I am supposed to handle these as a matured individual who lives in one of the happening metropolitan city now!. And then another year passes by with me wondering ….
Just when i was completely convinced about my views (lack of) on new year resolutions and past year reflections, I got bumped into a webpage listing the four zen quotes…and bingo, I know that I am SIMPLY ZEN when it comes to handling my new year!!!
Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water
Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes, and grass grows by itself
If you walk, just walk. If you sit, just sit; but whatever you do, don’t wobble
When hungry, eat your rice; when tired close your eyes.
And incidentally, i am now completely caught up with the rest of the world and can talk about the new year resolutions and past year reflections in a simple zen way!!
Before new year, live your life. After new year, live your life
Sitting quietly, doing nothing, new year comes and you experience life by living and being yourself
If you do something, just do it. Don’t wobble and question too much
When learning, learn it all; When living, give it all
On a serious note, i am in complete agreement of the original zen quotes and believe it is a simple strong message for everyone to carry through every day of every year they live – including the new year day!. For those who are interested to read in details – here is the link – Four confusing zen quotes.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
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It definitely was an important day for me to remember – it became the MOST important day – the three unexpected questions in the unexpected situation from an unexpected person made it a superlative day! I will continue to wonder on why I became so lucky today to be aware of these questions and answers.
It sounds very cryptic, but what I experienced today was indeed cryptic at that time. It took time for me to appreciate that it was a unique happening and one of those significant times which I need to remember my entire life.
Barring all the details, here are the three questions and the answers – these made me feel connected with the universal soul which is always prevalent and waiting for me to acknowledge its presence.
Question 1: Do you know that everyone who is born in this world has to die one day?
Answer 1: Yes
Question 2: Do you think someone who suffers a lot due to a physical ailment or with a terminal illness will feel free and happy that they are dying?
Answer 2: They might be relieved of the physical pain and may be happy that they are getting free of it. They still would have enjoyed even that time of physical ailment as they could spend those extra time basking in the attention of their loved ones, being aware of the affection they shower on them.
Question 3: Do you think only the physical body goes away and the soul is still looking out for their loved ones?
Answer 3: Yes, the death is only physical – the soul stays and looks out – that is when you connect with the universe
Category – Drama-Romance ; Rating – 3.5 ; Comment – Taking care of those who need that care is an esoteric experience in itself!
A lazy Sunday evening and aimless channel surfing – I ended up watching “Adam” for an hour and half…a heartening realistic romance drama. It was a realistic ending with big emphasis on pragmatism!
The theme is an underlying romance between the budding writer and an Aspergers , For those, who is new to the term Aspergers,can read it out here…The movie tries to define love – love is to whom you may feel connected and about what.
Nevertheless, the challenge is always in the difference it makes when you know you are being loved Vs being in love. No doubt that being in love is a great feeling, but I read somewhere that the most powerful force in a woman’s life is the need to be appreciated, loved and cherished for what she is… – that kind of laid the foundation on why Beth feels that way…
What caught my attention in the movie is the challenges the caretakers of Aspergers go through – while it gives a great satisfaction to manage someone who has aberrations at psychological level (there are so many undefined mental states outside Aspergers, some even undetected!) it is so tough on an individual – there are millions and millions of those individuals around this world who go through those emotions and pursue towards the greater goal of taking care of their loved ones…and many-a-times without any recognition. This movie is a dedication to those lovely souls of mankind who care for others…God bless!
Everything is oxymoron, from every perspective
‘Absolutely unsure’ and in a ‘calm storm’
A ‘real dream’ which is ‘attractively distractive’
And a ‘true illusion’ which is ‘out of norm’
Still, is an interesting journey to a ‘definite mystery’ destination,
‘Focussing to defocus’ on the ‘perfect imperfection’
‘Consistently changing’ to ‘connect the disconnect’ with the cosmic soul
‘Experiencing inexperience’ and living the ‘illogical logic’ which is in ‘chaotic control’!
To put it simply, these are films whose ending is not clear, confusing, or not an ending at all – Anniyan (2005) was one of those movies which fall into this category – there was no ending at all or to be more precise, the ending was more like the beginning of the story line again. This movie used the medical condition of Multiple Personality Disorder and weaved a thrilling story line around it – the lead actor Vikram had put in great efforts to bring in the difference between the differences between his two split personalities. This movie did make a tremendous impact on the south Indian scene and was equally a box-office hit.
In an analogy, our lives is open-ended – when at times we feel that we have figured out it all, it opens up a big set of surprises! Probably that is what makes all of us interested in life – the surprise factor, the factor that there are millions of things which we will keep coming up new every day for us to understand and appreciate, the ever-lasting secrets of nature – what makes a flower bloom? what will the worms think? why is the planetary system following the standard routine?etc etc…..
Life, ofcourse is beautiful………being open ended adds to that beauty!!
It was a pleasant surprise when I read the news about Bangalore being ranked as the best city to live in India……it actually surpassed all the four Indian metros – Delhi, Kolkatta, Mumbai and Chennai!!!…….The news article can be read here
While I know the traffic and infrastructure needs more improvement, the upcoming metro train transport in Bangalore should address it is my sincere hope. Ofcourse, it goes without saying that the state governance should be focussed and committed on this – the live streaming of CM’s office which started with a big bang is facing technical snag and I hope the metro train plans are reviewed for any such snag….
Here is my list of top seven reasons on why I like Bangalore…………..
- Weather………lovely all through the year
- Greenery………you will be surprised by the small green patches in between densely crowded residential and commercial areas – don’t forget Cubbon park and Lal bagh
- People……….Bangaloreans are the best when it comes to making everyone feel at home – they are so polite and love peace
- Cosmopoliton……..the city itself is so mixed that it has its own cosmopolitan culture..From Malleshwaram to Koramangala it has the Mysore Iyengars to the MTV personalities
- IT companies……….gives loads of opportunities
- Darshinis………..the ‘stand-and-eat’ restaurants at every other street with their hot ‘idly-vada’, ‘masala dosa’, ‘chow-chow bath’, ‘rave idly’,etc with the fresh coconut ‘chutney’ and hot ‘sambar’
No wonder, the silicon valley of India is the winner of the year!! Bangalore, the best!!!
Anitha’s short story got the first prize in Unisun Reliance Timeout writing competition 2011 – I was very happy happy !!……Can’t stop posting this……….check her interesting blogposts here. One more women who multitasks, manages work and family and still keeps her passion for life, and continues to strive for the best keeping her feet firm on the ground!!
Congratulations, Anitha!!! God bless!!
I was concerned that I am suddenly aggressive and becoming a feminist (do you need to be a woman to call yourself a feminist?)…….reason???Because all these days, I had been proud that I am very objective and look at both sides of the coin for any issue….but two weeks back, this is what happened……
Our house help came that morning as usual – but her face was swollen and she told that her husband hit her because she opened a bank account and moved the money from a private chit fund to savings bank account – given that she is totally independent financially and runs her household with two kids by her own earning, i found no reason for her to let her husband manhandle her……..when I asked her why he hit her, I gathered that it is a common phenomenon………….and I got aggressive and told her – “nodu, Lakshmi…..if he hits you again, just hit him back”….She looked at me and true to her innocence self said ” he is stronger than me, it is difficult to hit him back”………
I never thought before I retorted strongly “take chilli powder and put on his face if he comes to hit you anymore”………..I was fuming…….Later when I relaxed and thought about my advice to her, I was concerned ……….
What happened to me? Did I always have these wild streaks within me?? I was sharing it with my friend saying that I probably have become wild…and not docile as i think of myself. Was a bit conscious that I was reacting to an input without much thought………..
And a week later, I was flabbergasted when i read the front page article in newspaper Deccan Herald Pati, Patni and ten thousand…………..this is about an innovative (!!??) proposal from a state minister in Andra Pradesh, India……….the proposal is for to establish a reward system for women if they beat up their abusive husbands……
While it will take lot of effort to implement such an innovative idea and it is for the government officials to handle this, this news item made me upgrade my concern to worry – an AP ruling minister is thinking like me or vice versa!!…………danger danger………God, save me and my thoughts!!!!!
ps – if you are yet to watch how the south Indian regional movies portray an AP ruling minister, you will need help from someone who does it to understand why I am worried and reaching out to almighty to save me and my thoughts!! :)