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Adam


Category –  Drama-Romance ;  Rating –  3.5  ;  Comment  – Taking care of those who need that care is an esoteric experience in itself!

A lazy Sunday evening and aimless channel surfing –    I ended up watching “Adam” for an hour and half…a heartening realistic romance drama. It was a realistic ending with big emphasis on pragmatism!

The theme is an underlying romance between the budding writer and an Aspergers ,   For those, who is new to the term Aspergers,can read it out here…The movie tries to define love –  love is to whom you  may feel connected and about what.

Nevertheless, the challenge is always in the difference it makes when you know you are being loved Vs being in love.  No doubt that being in love is a great feeling, but I read somewhere that the most powerful force in a woman’s life is the need to be appreciated, loved and cherished for what she is… –  that kind of laid the foundation on why Beth feels that way…

What caught my attention in the movie is the challenges the caretakers of Aspergers  go through –  while it gives a great satisfaction to manage someone who has aberrations at psychological level (there are so many undefined mental states outside Aspergers, some even undetected!)  it is so tough on an individual  –  there are millions and millions of those individuals around this world who go through those emotions and pursue towards the greater goal of taking care of their loved ones…and many-a-times without any recognition.  This movie is a dedication to those lovely souls of mankind who care for others…God bless!

ps-if you are an Indian movie watcher  –  “My name is Khan” in Hindi  and ” Swati Mutyam” in Telugu (Sippikul Muthu” in Tamil) have similar story lines!

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Marriage – Osho


  • Author –  Osho
  • Category – Non fiction
  • Rating  –  Not sure if I can rate it!!!   😦

This book is a collection of Osho’s preaching and excerpt from his other books……….. .all about marriage!!! 

 Now, let me be honest.  I did not completely enjoy reading Osho’s thoughts on marriage At times; his thoughts were too stunning and at times too abstract and theoretical to comprehend.  Probably, he had an explanation for my reaction – within his book – “that is because your mind is conditioned about how a women should be and what marriage should be’

 There were some parts of the book which made sense and there were some parts where I felt it is all rhetorical !

 Osho quotes that human beings are polygamous by nature and the institution of marriage forces them against that and supports monogamy. While men invented arranged marriage to bring a framework, they also understood that men need a vent and hence they invented the system of  ‘devadasis’.  Now comes the question  –  IS WOMEN NOT A HUMAN BEING?  She indeed is!! So, why was there no system for women?

 But men planned in such a way that women were reduced to a thing…Women were denied education, they were made to be dependent on men financially – we made a society where women were dependent on men for financial security and also for knowledge (women were denied education, in general)

 It is true that the Indian system of marriage gives stability.  So, West invented a different solution to this polygamous nature  – they went with serial monogamy,  so there were lot of marriages and lot of divorces  they fall in love, marry and then they get out of love and divorce  

 So, marriage puts a constraint and hence it kills love.   Osho reinforces that love is important. 

 While it all made logical sense, I could not stop thinking in the following lines………………

 If marriage is not the right institution and if it kills love, what is his idea about giving a secure home to the children, who are the future generation? 

 Many marriages may lack love. 

 When two individuals, who were tied together by marriage and not by, love……… wanting to lead a peaceful life with integrity….…..over a period of time will definitely develop “AFFECTION, UNDERSTANDING, ADJUSTMENT – all the good things required for a successful partnership. 

 Marriage (with the basic affection and a conscious will to be a better parent) indeed gives an environment where there is higher probability of achieving a physically, mentally and emotionally stable life. And ofcourse, this brings in an environment for the children to grow up so that they become stable individuals.

Somehow the way we human beings are designed, we need both parents –  mom and dad! 

 Probably, marriage is an artificial way of enforcing men and women to establish units that form a cultured society.  For humanity to survive and reach further heights we need certain basic rules and framework in place and what is a better alternate to the institution of marriage?

 If we can come up with a better alternate framework than marriage  –  which is going to achieve love and affection and also provide a stability in life  –   who is going to complain??!!!

 Today, marriage works and there is no alternate which is better  🙂

Connections!


When the fourteen year old talked about  anthropology and the connection of races  –  the six year old has to add on to it….”  i know, i know….i am connected to you, you are connected to grandpa and so i am connected to grandpa!”  –   the pride of discovering the concepts and the pride of discussing a topic with the elders make the little one so enthusiastic!!……….so, he adds on……….

“mom, what happens to grandmom?………..is she still connected to you…….you said she is dead?  how do we connect to her?”…..

As though it was a dream,  the answer came “our souls are always connected –  what went missing was the physical presence!”……

Not sure how much the six year old would have understood, but this was indeed a very satisfying answer which made him feel that grandmom is around still!!

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